Relationship Goals – Don’t Compromise

In a good relationship, we compromise, right? We take a little of what you want, a little of what I want, and we create a happy medium that we can both be satisfied with. That’s the recipe for success, yes?

No. That’s wrong, at least in my experience.

Compromise is a real thing, and it can work for, say, teachers. Students want to be outside for 20 minutes, the teacher just wants 10, so they slice it and stay outside for 15 minutes and everyone feels like a winner, BUT nobody got what they REALLY wanted. That might work in a classroom or a workplace, but it’s not a sustainable thing for a relationship. I can’t spend my life always giving up a little and never really getting what I want. Seriously, who wants to live that way?

The Most Successful Relationships Are About Give & Take

Sometimes you’re the giver. You go to that party that your partner wants to go to even though you’d rather stay home and watch a movie, or you decide on Chinese when you’d rather have a burger. And you do it to make your partner happy, sure, but you also do it because you know that there will be times where you’ll get to be the taker, and you’ll get to go to that broadway show with your favorite person, even though that person would much rather NOT listen to people singing for 3 hours, or you’ll get to watch the sappy love story instead of the action-packed, blood-soaked thriller that your love would find way more entertaining. Read the full blog post on the Live Out Loud blog